It’s easy to argue with someone you love but when arguement persists, you need to take a step back and wonder what really is the problem. That’s where I am in my life right now. I can only hope I make it.
It certainly is the best choice you will ever make – not to care about what other people think. It’s a hard choice, one that comes with a few hurdles and hardships but it’s definitely worth it. Why should you have to care about what others think? Why should you have to put up with listening to negativity and disappointment? None of those feelings are worth the peace of mind you have when you make the choice of not caring. It’s not about you being heartless or ignorant but it’s about being more self sufficient and confidence and also happy with who you are.
I believe it’s important to be comfortable in your own skin in order to be happy with yourself. As of now, I feel like I’ve lost myself and have no true identity so in order to find myself I have to make peace with certain things in my life. It’s not an easy process. It’s tiring, it’s painful and it’s time consuming but trust me, it’s worth it.
It took me a while to understand that my happiness cannot depend on a single person or persons who are a part of my life. Instead it’s I who have the power to make myself happy or otherwise. I’m still going through the ordeals of trying to find out what I love about myself and what needs work. As for my identity crisis, I’m getting it sorted. Right now I’m focussed on inner peace – meditating every morning or sometimes in the evening really helps. Also being around people who genuinely care about you is a good way to attain inner peace and comfort in your own skin.
Remember that you are never alone in this journey.
Much love! Xoxo
Change is inevitable and the only thing that’s constant in life. Nothing else really stays the same. It’s hard to accept certain things life but if you can bring yourself to accept that change is a part of life, then you’ll make it through. People change. Situations change. Surroundings change. Experiences change. Every single day you change and this is normal. I like to think there’s a tiny part of myself that I leave behind every single and I am no longer who I was yesterday, today. I am a brand new person even in the smallest way and it gives me the opportunity to bring something fresh into my life. A new self means new focus, new ideas, new perspective. So again, learn to accept and embrace change. It’s for the better – trust me!
Much love! Xoxo
It’s important to surround yourself with people who truly care about you – not just for that very moment you need them but also at other times. It’s important to have someone in your life who completely understands you even when you don’t make sense and still can make you feel better when you’re sad or hurting.
He or she may have been a part of your life for a decade or more or even less, but it sure feels like they know every inch of you. He or she may not live close by anymore but distance has never been an issue. He or she may have other priorities in life but they’d make it a point to keep in touch and see that you’re doing okay. He or she may be the closest thing you’d have to a damn good friendship so do not ever take them for granted or let them go.
It’s important for them to be a part of your life and for you to also be a part of theirs. Know this and do not take a single moment for granted. Allow them to help you feel better, lean on and take away the pain. Allow them to make you feel important every once in a while.
Why bother chasing after people who do not want to be with you or rather who do not appreciate and value you? It’s okay to let go of these types of people from your life. It’s important that you and I understand our own value. If you value yourself, you wouldn’t put up with someone who doesn’t. Be who you are, be true to yourself. You need to impress no one but yourself in this journey we call life. Do your own thing and mind your own business. Create your own sense of space and harmony and this will (I promise) keep you happy. If the right kind of person looks at you and begins to admire you for all that and more, take them in to your life. If they belong, they will stay. Regardless, continue to do your thing. No harm will come to you from ever doing your own thing.
I’ve begun to make my own space and create my own kind of happiness because over the past few months I’ve come to realize that o cannot base my happiness or it cannot entirely depend on a single person. I have the power in me to make myself happy and that’s exactly what I’m doing. I wake up every morning with positivity and I tell myself today is going to be a good day regardless of what happens. I do my own thing, write my thoughts, read and spend time getting to know myself. I also make time to meet friends who mean a lot to me. This is me. If people can’t accept that, then they don’t deserve to be a part of my life. If it were meant to be, they’ll come back and stay. If otherwise, I’ll continue to make my own happiness and not chase after people who don’t deserve to be in my life.
Let’s be real; shit happens. Negativity, downfalls, slip ups and disappointment are all a part of life. If you didn’t know it couldn’t accept that all this while then my friend you’re living in a crazy bubble that’s gonna pop at some point. It’s only natural because nothing really stays the same or is consistent – be it positivity, happiness, success, wealth and well the list could go on. Nothing is permanent. Learn to accept that and deal with it in life if you want to move forward. It may seem hard and nearly impossible at first but you’re not alone in this journey, so find comfort that others are going through the same and keep your head up high.
Much love! Xoxo